If someone asked you to describe your essence – how would you begin to reply?

What things about your personality are non-negotiable?

Jesus once said that those who would follow him would need to deny themselves and that those trying to save their lives might instead lose them… It’s a hard teaching, and one that many (understandably) struggle with.

But what if this losing – this releasing of things we think are important, vital – is actually freedom?

In the coaching world, we often help clients explore their self-limiting beliefs or behaviours – the things we think or do that stop us from being our truest self. 

These things are often rooted in our past – a decision we made or an action that we took, or even something that someone else did or said to us. They can come from a place of self-protection, perhaps trying to rationalise the unknowable, or someone else projecting their fears or own limitations on us.

They ultimately stop us growing, keeping us safely in a place where we think we know who we are – at the cost of finding out who we can be.

Maybe – just maybe – part of what Jesus is saying this: it is time for us to stop pretending we have it sussed, and instead be prepared to shed some of our old skin and start looking for the adventure that exploring potential can bring.

This post is part of a collaborative project called #LentVoices. For more details of both the project and contributors, see here.

Over Lent this year (2021) a motley but dedicated collection of freelancers, all of whom have a Christian Faith, decided to collaborate on a project we called Lent Voices. Each week we decided on a theme, loosely connected to a bible passage/story.

Below I have linked the contributions for week one (which also included a bonus item written for Ash Wednesday) – the theme was Leaving and we used the story of Jesus’ 40 days in the desert, immediately following his baptism, as our launch. That story can be found in Mark 1:9-15.

Ash Wednesday – by Mark Berry

Leaving for the wilderness – by Sally Nash

Leaving – by Mark Berry

Leaving and Wild Things – by Lucie Hutson

Leaving – by Andy Campbell

Theo-Drama: Leaving – by Hasna Khatun

‘Leaving’ a lentern exploration – by James Fox-Robinson

The gospel stories say Jesus was ‘driven’ into the wilderness for those 40 days. There were wild animals there, but also angels.

I’m struck by the parallels of our collective existence, especially this past year. We’ve been forced out of our routines, comforts and assumptions and into a new territory that is confusing, frightening and holds significant dangers. Our wild beasts might come in the shape of a virus, loneliness or anxiety – and some of them have teeth and claws that will leave scars.

But there are also angels. Individuals and communities that have helped those around them to stand, walk, function, even thrive where possible.

As a Coach, I often speak to people who are in a place of transition – perhaps paralysed by real or perceived dangers that surround them. I try my best to help them see where they have control or influence, what they need to stop fighting or put down, to practice self care, reflect on the resources they have, and consider who might help guide them to the next stage.

It can be really tempting to return to old ways of being and doing – even if we know they no longer work. But growth *always* means leaving something behind – a habit, a belief, a story we told ourselves… and having the bravery to take the next step and see what is over that next dune.

This post is part of a collaborative project called #LentVoices. For more details of both the project and contributors, see here.