Why coaching will not work for you…

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It seems a little self-indulgent, no?

You have enough things to juggle at the moment, and you don’t have the time, money or energy to spend on something so ethereal.

And anyway, what would you even need a coach for?

  • you know everything about yourself
  • you never have any doubts or fears
  • you always fully embrace change
  • there is nothing in your life you want to change
  • you are absolutely certain about where you are going
  • your physical and mental fitness is everything you want it to be
  • you never procrastinate
  • you have no areas in your life you want to grow
  • you never self sabotage
  • the stories you tell yourself are 100% accurate
  • you always feel like you are good enough
  • you have no self-destructive habits, at all
  • your time management is amazing, always
  • you don’t need feedback
  • all of your habits are positive
  • you set clear, realistic goals and unrelentingly achieve them
  • there is no stress in your life
  • you don’t wrestle with Imposter Syndrome
  • you are never cynical and never give up
  • you have never had any type of trauma

And, of course, you can do everything on your own and have never benefitted from the input of others.

Of course I’m bring a little cheeky here. Please don’t read the above as a not-so-subtle way of arguing that coaching can solve all your problems (after neatly breaking each one down into attractive and bite-sized portions…

But

If you are honest with yourself, you know that while you are dealing with many personal or professional situations really well – there are one or two that have tripped you up, confused you or sent you into a spin of fight, flight or denial.

Maybe we could have a chat about how coaching might be a way of getting past those?
Get in touch for a free, no obligation chat: book a free 30 minute conversation here.

You have 15 minutes to discuss the ‘One Big Thing’​ dominating your thinking…

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Image by Pierre Bamin: https://unsplash.com/photos/18T72jBinvI

…what would you be talking about?

For the couple of months, it’s genuinely been my amazing privilege to host and participate in a series of 15 minute* conversations with amazing people talking about the ‘one big thing’ dominating their thinking.

Each and every one of those conversations has left me energisedhopeful and with some further personal and professional reflection to do.

The guests have been a disparate bunch – at least on an initial observation. Comics to Coaches; Members of Parliament to members of the clergy; youth work specialists, writers and CEOs

And the topics might likewise appear disconnected – but there have been surprising and encouraging overlaps, and what links them all is a sense of hope, possibility and potential. What has struck me (having been part of every conversation) is the commonality within the series – people wrestling with change that has been forced upon them to an extent, driven and shaped by a pandemic that no theoretical framework could have truly mitigated for, who are nonetheless determined to turn the manure generated into a compost for something beautiful.

See the full list of guests and topics covered here or pop over to the youtube channel and have an explore…

1 in 15 interviews

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I’ve conducted a series of short interviews (15 minutes each, give or take) asking guests from a wide variety of backgrounds what their ‘One Big Thing’ is – the thought dominating their personal or professional lives at the moment.

It’s been a fantastic thing to host.

My guests have included Stand Up Comics, Coaches, Youth Specialists, CEOs, Church Ministers, Therapists, Authors and more.

The topics we have mulled over have included change, trauma, noticing, flow, opportunity, radical creativity – all wrapped up in a mixture of challenge and hope.

Check out the youtube channel for more – the first interview went live on Friday 24th July, and there will be a new one going up each Monday, Wednesday and Friday until the series runs out.

If you would like to be a guest, and/or know someone else who would be interested, drop me a quick email.

Why Qawah?

Qawah is a Hebrew word, which means “to wait, look for or hope with eager expectation.”

This waiting is far from passive – but balances the things we are in control of with those things that are outside of our immediate influence. We can wrestle (with our contexts, our resources and even ourselves) as we wait – and, in doing so, we begin to see clarity forming where once there was only confusion. So we neither naively expect everything to improve immediately, nor sit back and hope for change to happen without us having to do any work.

Hope is not dependent on personal circumstances, history or attitude – but stretches beyond our present reality, into a future where things have changed for the better. And we draw on an range of internal and external resources as we engage with this hope – including understanding that the realisation of that hope takes time, and positive change only comes through intentional action. This action may be to stop a behaviour or relationship, to start something new, and/or to alter how we think about and do things.

Waiting is not instinctively an easy thing for most of us. We live in a world where increasingly everything happens quickly, and we all-too-readily lose sight of the opportunity to stop, notice and reflect. When you work with a coach, you are giving yourself explicit permission to invest in areas of self-limitation, fear or false-narrative.

And so, at Qawah, we work with you to create space where you can have an honest conversation with yourself about who you really are, and who you want to be – personally and/or professionally – to begin a journey of improvement, with eager expectation that the journey will be exciting, engaging and profitable.

Get in touch to find out how we can help you help yourself

Training, Public Speaking and Resource Creation

At Qawah, we recognise the importance of learning and development. We have years of expertise in a range of formal and informal education settings, and can off your business, organisation or group a high-quality bespoke product that responds to your needs.

Andy has spent much of his career in training, education and charity work. He has designed and taught lessons, courses, and group-learning exercises for all ages – including time as a tutor on two Youth Work and Culture degrees, as a Chaplain in a secondary setting, and Director of a local youth work charity.

Although we have split our approaches into three different categories below, the reality is that often these delivery styles blend to suit the context. We remain convinced that learning and development is best experienced collaboratively and that individuals and communities learn best when they journey together towards a common goal.

Training:

We specialise in creative approaches to problem solving, and are experts at capturing complex topics and themes and communicating them clearly in a way that encourages proactive responses. Some things we have provided training for include:

  • Charities seeking to re-connect with the purpose
  • Faith communities looking to re-examine their sense of calling and identity
  • Youth, school and community groups who want to explore ways they can positively impact their communities
  • Businesses wishing to deepen their sense of identity, build internal relationships or re-discover their core strategies

Public Speaking:

Andy is an accomplished public speaker, confident and capable in front of crowds of all sizes. He has spoken on a range of topics, including (but not limited to):

  • Well-ness and mindfulness
  • Ethics
  • Spirituality
  • Culture
  • Environmental issues and action
  • Creativity

Resource Creation:

We have years of experience of designing and creating resources for individuals or groups to use, covering a range of topics (including those listed above).

  • lesson plans and assemblies for schools
  • one-off sessions or longer courses for youth or community groups
  • study materials for church or community groups
  • Well-ness journal ideas for individuals or groups.

Wellness – what is it, and why should I think about it?

We are complex beings, and do not always feel able to invest or prioritise in our physical or mental health – but when we do so, we are at risk of under-performing or even injuring ourselves.

There has been a significant amount of study in the last few decades, highlighting the value of intentional wellness practices – of taking the time to notice and re-connect with your mind, body and spirit*.

Wellness – sometimes called well-being or mindfulness (and the list goes on) – is simply about making space and time to acknowledge who you are in the moment.

  • It might be about giving the body rest or exercise – for example through better sleep patterns, breathing exercises, stretching or physical exercise.
  • Or you might find you need to find ways to rest or re-charge the mind – connecting with others socially, giving yourself permission to put things down for a while or taking up something creative.
  • Others find they need to do some work with their spirit – through practices such as meditation, prayer or volunteering activities.

It should be obvious that there is significant overlap between the above categories, and practices that will bring benefit!

When you work with us on your well-being, we will help you identify areas where you wish to see improvement, and offer or point you a range of skills and practices which will fit with your lifestyle

(* ‘spirit’ can mean many things to many people – we use it to reflect on the part of ourselves that connects with the other – which may be other people, a deity and/or the world around us)

Why on earth would I need a Coach?

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We are all doing our best to get through life, to find what ‘success’ means to us, to feel that we have a purpose or contribution to make.

To spend time with a Coach is to be given the gift of time and space with yourself – a good coach will never tell you what you should do, but will work with you to help you understand what your reality is, and where you are limiting yourself or being unrealistic.

We have all had those moments when spending time with someone else – where we can see things they are somehow blind to, where they seem to be unconsciously limiting themselves, or trapped by fears about what the future might hold.

A Coach creates and moderates the space where you can be fully honest with yourself – about any hopes, fears or uncertainties you may have (sometimes hidden beneath the surface). We help you see where you are limiting yourself and where you are defined by stories that others have told you about yourself. We observe, question and offer feedback – always without judgement – and help you arrive at a new place where you have greater insight about yourself, others, and who or what you want to be.

The client is always the one who initiates any change, resolves any issues or sets any goals – the coaches may offer some insight as to how such progress can be made, point to any external tools that could be helpful, or co-form a specific challenge with the client.

People who commit to being coached commonly experience:

  • Improved performance or focus
  • Increased self-awareness
  • Improved ability to relate to and influence others
  • Increased levels of motivation and performance